10 STEPS TO BEING A BETTER WIFE

(from msn.com lifestyle)

  1. Take care of yourself – Turns out that the best thing you can do for your husband is also good for you. Eat healthy foods, maintain good grooming, and exercise regularly. You’ll look and feel better, and you’ll continue to be the vibrant and attractive woman he fell in love with, no matter your age.
  2. Say thank you, often – When researchers ask men what they want from their wives, appreciation always makes the list.
  3. Keep the romance alive – When was the last time you planned a romantic interlude with your husband? If you can’t remember, you’re way overdue.
  4. Let him have “guy time” – Everyone needs time for themselves — to relax, enjoy a hobby, or socialize with friends. If your husband loves football and you don’t, don’t bug him about it. Encourage him to cultivate friendships with other men. He’ll enjoy the companionship.
  5. Make your husband a priority – With the everyday stresses of work, home, and kids, it’s easy to take your husband for granted. Make time for the two of you to reconnect on a regular basis. Take an interest in his work and hobbies. Let him know he’s important to you.
  6. Don’t try to change him – Are you outgoing, but your husband is shy? Do you like a clean house, but he leaves towels on the floor? Behavioral experts say you can’t change others, you can only change yourself and how you react — so look for ways other than nagging to handle these situations.
  7. Don’t make him guess — tell him what you want – It’s easy to assume that the person who lives with you every day also knows you well enough to know what you want. Not true. Most of us view the world through our own needs and desires, so don’t be surprised if your husband thinks that what you want is what he would want.
  8. Cultivate friends and interests outside your marriage – Once you’re married, it’s easy to shrink your social network to revolve around your husband. But no one person can meet all your needs, and it’s too much to expect your husband to be your partner, your lover, AND your best girlfriend.
  9. Let free time be free – Just as you need time to relax and unwind, so does your husband. He may not define it the way you do, though; while your idea of relaxing after work may be talking over a glass of wine, he may enjoy being quiet for awhile, reading the newspaper, or watching TV. Find a compromise so both your needs are met.
  10. Believe in your husband, and let him know it – Men can display a lot of bravado, but like us they sometimes struggle with low self-confidence and feelings of failure.

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