SIGNS YOUR CHILD IS BEING BULLIED AT SCHOOL
(shine.yahoo.com) The National Youth Violence Prevention Network recently reported that 5.7 million students are involved in bullying— as the victim, perpetrator, or both. More often than not, kids hide being bullied out of shame, so it is important to watch for behavioral changes. Here are six key signs, outlined by the Department of Health and Human Services, your child may be the victim of harassment and intimidation.
- Loss of Interest in School: A sharp decline in grades coupled with a sudden disinterest in school can be a tell-tale sign of your child suffering at the hands of a bully. Similarly, if your kid seems distracted and eager to change the subject when you bring up his or her school day, it could be an indication of something more serious. Try to get your child to open up by doing a fun one-on-one activity with him or her and ask questions in a gentle manner. In other words, don’t give the third degree.
- Inconsistent Eating and Sleeping Patterns: Many victims of bullying exhibit loss of appetite or engage in binge eating to cope with the harassment. Anxiety over the torment can cause nightmares or insomnia. Excessive sleeping can also be a clue to underlying problems. Talk to your child, speak with school administrators, and if need be, meet with a physician before the problem manifests into something worse.
- Fear or Anxiety of Going to School: If your child avoids riding the bus, is scared of walking to and from school, or takes a long, out-of-the-way route to class, find out what or who is behind it by talking to school officials, cross-walk guards, or the bus driver.
- Unexplained Cuts and Bruises: Kids are notorious for getting into all sorts of mishaps. But when bruises or cuts are unaccounted for or are routinely brushed off as “accidents,” you should investigate the causes without hesitation.
- Damaged or Missing Belongings: Again, children are prone to accidents. But if you notice a pattern of torn, damaged, or missing pieces of clothing, books, or other belongings, you should definitely look into the reason why. Also, if your child is constantly losing his or her lunch (or lunch money), there may be more to it than absent-mindedness. Get to the root of the matter, and consider labeling your child’s belongings to help prove the property is, in fact, your child’s.
- Frequent Health Complaints and Requests to Stay Home: If your child frequently complains about headaches and stomachaches and asks to stay home, you should look into whether they’re phantom claims or legitimate illnesses. It’s not uncommon for anxiety and psychological anguish over the harassment and intimidation to lead to very real physical ailments. Speak to your child’s teacher, guidance counselor, or the family physician if the complaints persist.
5 DRINKS THAT CAN HELP YOU CALM DOWN
Stressful day? Don’t reach for a candy bar. Try one of these soothing liquids instead.
- Drink a glass of milk. It contains tryptophan, which as it is metabolized is converted to mood-boosting serotonin. Plus, its calcium, magnesium and potassium content may help keep blood pressure down.
- Drink hot cocoa. Warm drinks raise your body temperature—a feeling we associate with comfort, so it triggers a similar response in our brains.
- Order black tea instead of coffee. A study by University College London shows that drinking black tea four times a day for six weeks lowered the stress hormone cortisol after a stressful event.
- Drink green tea. Green tea —packed with theanine, which increases the brain’s output of relaxation-inducing alpha waves and reduces the output of tension-making beta waves.
- Drink a glass of cold water, then go for a walk outside. The water gets your blood moving and the air invigorates by stimulating the endorphins that de-stress you.
FAVORITE FLICKS REVEAL PERSONALITY
The kind of flick you choose offers a rare glimpse into your psyche, according to mental health experts. “Movies capture our imaginations and transport us out of our daily lives and into a world where we can forget all our troubles,” says psychologist Ernest Van Dusen. “And the kind of film you are drawn to is a vital clue in understanding your personal needs and desires.” So what’s showing? Choose from one of the following categories, and then read on for a close-up of your personality.
- Fantasy — If “Lord Of The Rings” is your idea of great entertainment, you’re a person with a rich imagination who lives in your head much of the time. People may think you’re a bit of a flake, but they’re way off the mark. You’re just preoccupied with your own thoughts. The select few in your circle of pals appreciate your intellectual gifts and sparkling wit.
- Mystery — You love to be challenged, and the intrigue and double-crosses in movies like “No Way Out” fit you to a T. You enjoy solving puzzles, pitting your ability to interpret motivations against the writer’s craftiness. You’re a born leader, often at the forefront of projects both at work and in your community. Others know you are the go-to guy to get the job done with style and panache.
- Science Fiction — You are endlessy fascinated with the future, and the far-out worlds in flicks like “Blade Runner” draw you in. If you could, you’d live forever because you hate the thought of missing what comes next. Your interest in tomorrow is reflected in your clothes and your home — you’re sure to have the newest trends in your closet and the latest electronics in your living room.
- Romance — Just as the characters in “Breakfast At Tiffany’s” are fated to be together, you believe there’s a soul mate meant for you. A passionate love relationship and a cozy family life are the linchpins of your existence, and you can’t be happy without them. Your devotion to your loved ones is legendary, and they return your affection in equal measure. You’re a homebody, but not a stick in the mud — your parties are always a hot ticket.
- Adventure — You thrive on setting goals for yourself and either meeting or exceeding the expectations of others. Just as Indiana Jones defeated his foes in “Raiders of the Lost Ark” with a combination of brains and brawn, you’ll use whatever it takes to succeed. You can be a powerful advocate when the project is something that stirs your passions, raising both awareness and donations for causes that fully engage your heart and mind.
YOU THINK IT’S BAD AT WORK NOW? YOU AIN’T HEARD NOTHING YET!
Do you ever feel overworked, over-regulated, under-leisured and underbenefited? Take heart, this notice was found in the ruins of a London office building. It was dated 1852:
- This firm has reduced the hours of work, and the clerical staff will now only have to be present between the hours of 6 a.m. and 7 p.m. weekdays.
- Clothing must be of sober nature. The clerical staff will not disport themselves in raiment of bright colors, nor will they wear hose unless in good repair.
- Overshoes and topcoats may not be worn in the office, but neck scarves and headwear may be worn in inclement weather.
- A stove is provided for the benefit of the clerical staff. Coal and wood must be kept in the locker. It is recommended that each member of the clerical staff bring four pounds of coal each day during the cold weather.
- No member of the clerical staff may leave the room without permission from the supervisor. (My last job actually HAD that memo distributed to the staff… not surprisingly, that was the same day that I left!)
- No talking is allowed during business hours.
- The craving for tobacco, wine, or spirits is a human weakness, and as such is forbidden to all members of the clerical staff.
- Now that the hours of business have been drastically reduced, the partaking of food is allowed between 11:30 and noon, but work will not on any account cease!!!
- Members of the clerical staff will provide their own pens. A new sharpener is available on application to the supervisor.
- The supervisor will nominate a senior clerk to be responsible for the cleanliness of the main office and the supervisor’s private office. All boys and juniors will report to him 40 minutes before prayers and will remain after closing hours for similar work. Brushes, brooms, scrubbers, and soap are provided by the owners.
- The owners recognize the generosity of the new labor laws, but will expect a great rise in output of work to compensate for these near Utopian conditions.
(***MARLAR: Wow… I guess I shouldn’t be complaining so much about not getting the “quilted” toilet paper in the restroom, huh?)