EVERYDAY SURVIVAL KIT
o Rubber band
o Band aid
o Chewing gum
o Candy Kiss
o Tea Bag
o Toothpick – to remind you to pick out the good qualities in others. (Matt. 7:1)
o Rubber band – to remind you to be flexible, things might not always go the way you want, but it will work out. (Romans 8:28)
o Band Aid – to remind you to heal hurt feelings, yours or someone else’s. (Col. 3:12-14)
o Pencil – To remind you to list your blessings every day. (Eph. 1:3)
o Eraser – to remind you that everyone makes mistakes, and it’s okay. (Gen. 50:15-21)
o Chewing gum – to remind you to stick with it and you can accomplish anything. (Phil. 4:13)
o Mint – to remind you that you are worth a mint to your heavenly father. (John 3:16-17)
o Candy Kiss – to remind you that everyone needs a kiss or a hug every day. (1 John 4:7)
o Tea Bag – to remind you to relax daily and go over that list of your blessings. (1 Thess. 5:18)
THREE WAYS TO ENJOY YOUR LIFE MORE
- Turn it Off: Try turning your computer off and putting your blackberry away from time to time this week. If you are watching your kid’s soccer game, leave the phone in the car. Instead of rushing to your computer first thing in the morning, sit down with your family for breakfast and talk about the day. This exercise will teach you to be more in the moment and enjoy your life aside from work and obligations.
- Appreciate Nature: Being surrounded by nature and the beauty of outdoors is meditative. When you are working like a racehorse, or carpooling kids here and there, it’s easy to put this at the bottom of your priority list. Just the act of getting some fresh air will rejuvenate you physically and emotionally. Take your lunch break and get in a brisk walk. Meet a friend early in the morning for a walk or ride. Use the weekends as a time to explore your surroundings.
- Leave Work at Work: How many of you feel like your work always finds you, no matter where you are or what you are doing? Of course there will times when you need to bring work home, but there is always a balance. This week I want you to be conscious of leaving work at the office. When you are home with the family or kids, be engaging with them. If you are out on a date, don’t constantly check your blackberry. Work will always be there, there will always be more to do, but in the process you are missing out on a huge chunk of your life.
WANT TO BE DEPRESSED AND MISERABLE?
(From Charles B. Beckert, Ph.D.)
- Really concentrate on mistakes that you’ve made, especially mistakes you can’t do anything about.
- Always compare yourself to others. This works best when you compare your worst traits with their best traits.
- When someone else has a problem, be sure to make it your problem too. For added misery, you can also find some way to blame yourself for their problems.
- Spend as much time and energy as possible criticizing and judging yourself and everyone else. The longer the list of negatives about people, the better your misery.
- Make sure you look at the bad side of everything. There’s always some bad to be found in every situation, but you may have to get creative in order to find it.
- Be a perfectionist. Set goals for yourself and others that are way too high. This works best if you often remind yourself that you are not good enough. It also enhances the misery of others if you remind them that they’re not good enough either.
- Hole-up in your room. Avoid friends and family, especially the ones who really love you.
- Always strive to please everyone all the time. Make sure that you don’t waste any energy on making yourself happy.
- Let your self-worth be decided by whether others like and accept you. A helpful hint is to do things you don’t be believe in and say things that you wouldn’t normally say in order to be accepted.
- Base your worth as a person on how you look and what you have.
- Don’t ever forgive yourself. Hold grudges against yourself when you don’t live up to your standards and the standards of others.
- Avoid doing anything new or empowering. You definitely don’t want to risk success.
- At all costs, avoid activities and people where you feel good about yourself. There are lots of people and places that support you in feeling worthless and miserable…spend as much time as possible there.
- Make sure that your self-worth is based on whether or not you have a boyfriend. Settle for some loser that treats you really badly so that you won’t be without a boyfriend.
- Some people find that they are miserable being miserable. If this is you, you might try doing the absolute opposite of all the strategies above and see what wonderful things happen!